~Our First Year~

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Well  a year has now passed since our precious little girl was born and passed away, here is our account on things that have happened and how we have coped over the last year.

Soon after Molly's funeral which was on 4th October 2001, we both returned to work, this was a big step to take but one we had to make.

We were both continually asked 'how's the baby?' and we still are being asked to this day, having to explain that our daughter is no longer here is very hard, and doesn't seem to get any easier, not only is it hard for us explaining to the well-wishers but you feel bad for upsetting them when they really have no idea.

My (Claire) birthday was 3 days after Molly's funeral which I found very hard how will I be able to celebrate my birthday ever again?

Since Molly's passing we have had to deal with Molly not being here to see her 1st Christmas, Fathers day , Mothers day and of course her 1st birthday. I really can't put into words the way we felt during all of these difficult times we have had to be strong for each other to help each other through.

We take great joy in passing our love to our five nephews one of which was born this year, they seem to know if you are feeling a bit down its very strange, they tend to give you that extra kiss or special cuddles its as if they know yet they are all so young the oldest being four years old.

For Molly's 1st birthday we organised lots of pretty flowers and some balloons to send to heaven, all of our family gathered at the cemetery where Molly now rests, most of us there for the majority of the day. Molly was also given some balloons by some very special friends in Australia who we have never met (yet).

When everybody was ready we all released our balloons they flew at great speed, in the distance you could see our messages attached by tags.  Over all a nice day with many emotions running high.

We decided while I was still pregnant that what ever the outcome was to be with Molly that we would have another baby to give Molly a brother or sister, sadly we have not been blessed yet but we are sure our time will come.

In the year that has passed we have attended two memorial services at guys hospital where Molly was born and have met some very special people who have also lost their children, two of which have also lost a child to HLHS.

We remain to stay strong and support each other everyday and our love for each other helps us through the difficult times.

We would also like to thank all our family and friends near and far for their amazing support through this very difficult year .

With special heartfelt thanks to Debbie if it wasn't for her Molly's site wouldn't be here for you all to see.

God bless little Angel .

My First Birthday in Heaven

 

Calling all the angels--
It's a special day today!
For Molly's turning one year old!
Here's what she has to say:
 
"Mummy & Daddy, please dry all your tears;
I know you miss me so.
And if it had been up to me,
I'd never have chosen to go."
 
"For I knew that you would miss me
And the things that we could do,
And I wish I could have stayed on earth
And lived down there with you."
 
"But, Mummy & Daddy, now I'm well and whole;
I sing and play all day
With all the angel boys and girls
Who've come to heaven to stay."
 
"Lord Jesus' holds us in His arms
And tells us of His love;
He knew that we were hurting--
That's why we came above."

"I love you, Mummy & Daddy, every day;
I send you kisses, too.
And some day you will join me here
And I'll always be with you."
 
"I've got to go--the party's on!
We'll sing and dance and play.
But I am always in your heart
And never far away."
 
"Please find a way to celebrate,
Even if you cry;
Perhaps you'll send me some balloons
Soaring to the sky."
 
"And I will know they came from you,
And I'll be flying near.
I send you love and kisses, too.
I love you, my parents dear."
 

 

My name is Deb and I came to know of Mark and Claire prior to Molly's birth when they left a message in one of our guestbook's.  It was such heart breaking news to learn that Molly had only lived for 6 short hours.  The one thing that has shone through this past year is the way Mark and Claire have handled their grief.  They have been brave enough to share it and at the same time have kept a lovely sense of humour and despite their own pain have cheered me up on many occasions.  And their love for one another is truly special.   I feel so honoured to know  them both (even though we have never met in person).  They have both been a constant source of encouragement to me personally and I know that Molly would be so very, very proud of her parents.  Molly's life has touched mine as I'm sure she has touched many others and I pray that the day will come soon when they will be blessed with a brother or a sister for Molly, as I know they have so much love to give. 

Psalm 34 verse 19

The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Psalm 30 verse 10-12

Hear, O Lord, and be merciful to me, O lord, be my help.  You turned my mourning into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing to you and not be silent.  O Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever.

Mark & Claire, May God turn your mourning into Dancing...that is my prayer for you both.

Much love to you both.

Deb. xxx

Happy first birthday sweet Molly.

These balloons are just for you.

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A special thanks to Amanda for making Molly's angel picture and to Saralyn for her memorial poem.  You can access their pages by clicking on their names.  Saralyn's memorial poems can also be found via Molly's links page.  Also thanks to Liz's Memorial graphics for the lovely background.

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